6 Sex Moves women hate mostly

To make sure you’re giving her the best experience possible, it’s important to know what moves really work and ones that are a waste of your (and her) time. Here’s what experts say women hate during foreplay.

1. It Doesn’t Last Long Enough

Because women are more intricate with their desire and most of the time, more complicated to get off, you might get bored, frustrated or just plain impatient when it comes to foreplay. Hochberger explains that’s when it’s time to dig in your heels, roll up your sleeves and not rush the process. “If you want to make your sexual experiences last longer, extending foreplay can be really helpful. For some women, it can take a long time to achieve orgasm or heightened amounts of pleasure when sexual intercourse is rushed,” she says. “Foreplay is something that should be enjoyed for extended period of times so that both parties involved can build up arousal and desire. This is a good technique for a man to use on a female partner who takes longer than him to achieve orgasm.”

2. You Forget The Little Things

While going down on her for an extended period of time is definitely a workout (and something she’ll appreciate, of course) – there are other ways to incorporate foreplay into every part of your relationship, both inside and outside of the bedroom. “Foreplay can range from holding hands at dinner, gazing into your partner’s eyes to kissing your partner’s ear lobes. Many people do not understand the full extent of what foreplay can be,” Hochberger says. “The body has a variety of erogenous zones, and nothing is sexier to a woman than when their partners caresses, kisses and touches those places. Don’t shoot for the stars right away, remember slow and steady wins the race.”

3. You’re Simply Checking Off To-Do Lists

One big misconception for both sexes regarding sex as a whole is seeing the whole experience in stages. It’s like that childhood rhyme that begins with ‘First comes love, then comes marriage’ – and just like you’ve learned with nearly everything in your life, sex doesn’t always fall in a specific order. “ Women as well as men tend to see sex in stages, foreplay, sex and after-play. This just helps them compartmentalize sex. Sex needs to be seen instead as one event that encompasses many types of behaviors,” says Kelly J. Connell M.S.Ed., C.A.S.H.S.E, sexuality educator, counselor and consultant and sex educator. “It is OK to stop penetration and go back to fingering, manual stimulation, oral sex or whatever other behaviors a couple finds pleasurable.”

4. You’re Not Communicating

If you can’t read her mind, she can’t read yours either. And not only when it comes to predicting she’s about to get upset over you forgetting to take out the trash again, but with your sex life, too. Explaining and guiding one another through your pleasure zones will make you feel more connected, intimate and aroused. “How are you suppose to know if a woman is ready, if you go in for the ‘kill’ without asking if she is ready and or what is feeling good to her,” Hochberger explains. “Just because a woman is lubricated doesn’t mean she is ready for sex and just because a woman’s vulva isn’t lubricated doesn’t mean she isn’t ready for sex. Communicate. If your partner is not fully lubricated ask her if you can gently massage some lube in her vulva before you begin internal vaginal stimulation.”

4. You’re Not Communicating

If you can’t read her mind, she can’t read yours either. And not only when it comes to predicting she’s about to get upset over you forgetting to take out the trash again, but with your sex life, too. Explaining and guiding one another through your pleasure zones will make you feel more connected, intimate and aroused. “How are you suppose to know if a woman is ready, if you go in for the ‘kill’ without asking if she is ready and or what is feeling good to her,” Hochberger explains. “Just because a woman is lubricated doesn’t mean she is ready for sex and just because a woman’s vulva isn’t lubricated doesn’t mean she isn’t ready for sex. Communicate. If your partner is not fully lubricated ask her if you can gently massage some lube in her vulva before you begin internal vaginal stimulation.”

6. You’re Not Using Your Penis And Fingers Effectively

If you’re past the age of 16 and you graduated college, you have no excuse to not also up your sexual skills, too. If you’re only using your penis to jab at her, without actually learning how to help her get turned on with your shaft, then it’s time to learn, stat. “Mindless and endless poking (or worse) jamming of the fingers into the vagina. I distinctly remember someone quipping in a group, ‘It’s like the same way you poke something with a stick to see if it’s dead or not.’ It’s a mental image that has stayed with me ever since,” counselor E.J. Smith, M.S., NCC, LPC explains. “The endless jamming also seems to indicate a race to the finish. I would encourage men to slow down and enjoy the experience. Think about the things you try to do with your penis—the areas you try to stimulate — and recreate those same movements with your finger or fingers. The beauty of the fingers is that they are more precise and flexible, so you can stimulate areas (like the almond-shaped G spot) with your fingers with more ease.”

Source: askmen.com




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